Yevgenia from Greece sent me this question. As it is a question I get asked a lot, it seemed like a nice one to open the Q&A posts you’ll find regularly on this blog from now on: My husband keeps giving hints to get (further) into this lifestyle but when we’re in bed, and I ask him what he wants me to do, he seems to find it hard to explain me what I should (make him) do. That creates tension as he seems to think I don’t want this for real while I simply need his guidance. How should we go about this?
Ann: “You make it very difficult for him by asking him what you should do. He’s a sub - maybe ypu hadn’t looked at it like that, but he is - and so it confuses him to tell you what you should make him do. Can you understand that? Best is to find a way for him to express what he would like you to do without really asking him. You could play with him a while, tease him, touch him a little, … you know what I mean … and then ask him to tell you some of his fantasies. That worked for me and hubby!”
Eva: “You could always try to look in his browser history. If you’re lucky you’ll find lots of interesting stuff there :-)
Ellen: “Use a blindfold. Chances are he’ll find it kinky and horny. The blindfold makes it easier for a guy to talk about his desires. Worked for me.
Gaëlle: “I knew he was surfing for porn so one night, I asked him if he could send me a few links and pics or stories. That way he didn’t have to talk to me about it and I learned lots about what turned him on. I’d recommend this way to every girl out there!
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